Marital Sexuality and Fertility
by James M. Harper and Leslie Feinauer
This chapter can be kind of taboo with a lot of people, especially in the church, so I was glad that they were able to include some thoughts about it.
They pose an interesting questions that has some key points that I would like to touch on. The question is asked, "Marital sexuality serves for what?" The points that were listed are as follows:
- Becoming One
- Connecting with God
- Strengthen emotional and spiritual bonds in marriage
- Avoiding temptation
- Rearing Children.
Others outside of our faith might have some other thoughts on abstinence, but we, as members of the Lords true church, know that sexual relations are only to be had within the bond of matrimony.
There is told an interesting story in the beginning of the chapter about a 13 year old daughter and her mother. They are laying in bed reading a book when the 13 year old asks, "mom, is sex better than candy?" I was very glad to hear that the mother responded as follows, "Oh yes, dear, with your husband in an eternal marriage, sex is far better than candy."
Sometimes we think that it is inappropriate to talk about sex. In some cases, it is. But in others, it should be allowed to be discussed and come from the right sources rather than the wrong ones.
Kids should hear it from their parents, not the friend at school.
McCarthy and McCarthy put some attitudes in the chapter that, "help promote positive marital sexuality as including the beliefs that:
1. Sexual Interaction is a heathy component of marriage that need not be a source of negative feelings or guilt
2. Married persons deserve to feel good about their bodies and to view sexual expression as a normal, healthy part of their marriage.
3. A primary component of marital sexuality is giving and receiving pleasure-oriended touching in the context of an intimate, committed, and divinely supported relationship. As such, it requires relaxation and focus on the other person as well as on one's own pleasure.
4. Sexuality should be expressed in a way that enhances your intimate, marital relationship and bonds you together.
5. Couples should strive to create a "we" relationship, where both partners' sharing and pleasure is important as opposed to one persono individually focused on what she or he will get out of the experience."
McCarthy and McCarthy put some attitudes in the chapter that, "help promote positive marital sexuality as including the beliefs that:
1. Sexual Interaction is a heathy component of marriage that need not be a source of negative feelings or guilt
2. Married persons deserve to feel good about their bodies and to view sexual expression as a normal, healthy part of their marriage.
3. A primary component of marital sexuality is giving and receiving pleasure-oriended touching in the context of an intimate, committed, and divinely supported relationship. As such, it requires relaxation and focus on the other person as well as on one's own pleasure.
4. Sexuality should be expressed in a way that enhances your intimate, marital relationship and bonds you together.
5. Couples should strive to create a "we" relationship, where both partners' sharing and pleasure is important as opposed to one persono individually focused on what she or he will get out of the experience."
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