My thoughts on children.

• Does is really matter whether we choose to become parents? Why or why not?

“There are multitudes of pure and holy spirits waiting to take tabernacles, now what is our duty?—To prepare tabernacles for them; to take a course that will not tend to drive those spirits into the families of the wicked, where they will be trained in wickedness, debauchery, and every species of crime. It is the duty of every righteous man and woman to prepare tabernacles for all the spirits they can.”

(Discourses of Brigham Young, Deseret Book Co., 1943, p. 197.)

What a silly question.. of COURSE it matters if we choose to become parents or not!!!! As The Family: A proclamation to the world says, "Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity." This explicitly says that the children are entitled to this birth. Another instance that comes to mind is when our Heavenly Father gave the commandment to Adam and Eve to "multiply and replenish the earth". We need to do that as well. 

For instance, let's say that you are in Heaven right now and are anxiously awaiting your birth to be able to receive your body and start your mortal adventure, but the family that you are supposed to be born in, is currently debating the decision of having children. This means that your experiences will have to be prolonged, and opportunities possibly missed just because your future parents are debating the decision that shouldn't really be a decision. 

Don't get me wrong. There are appropriate times to have children, and it's not always by choice that we have them. There are many people in the world that have children that shouldn't, and many that do not have children that should. If everyone was perfect, the world wouldn't need to exist. In my perspective, I'm not ready to have a child. I've been married for 2 1/2 months, I have a long way to go in school and so does my wife. I do not feel like I would be able to be the best father I could be if my wife and I had a child right now, so we are waiting. To me it needs to be logical and discussed with our Father in Heaven as well. I have heard of many experiences when a mother or father (usually the mother) just feel like someone is missing from their family. 

Yes. It matters if we choose to have children or not.